Being INTENTIONAL about SELF LOVE as a LADY

Hey fam, it’s mid – week already.

How’s the week going for y’all?

Well, I have some interesting gist for you. 

Me: I’m not here alone as I promised last week, our guest is poised for action and she’s in the person of …

Her: Ms Vivian Annan, a music minstrel, an entrepreneur, a proud Ghananain and I love God.

Me: Whew! We got some God lover in the house, hallelujah somebody!

Her: (smiles) Amen

Me: Today, we’re talking about how to be intentional about loving ourselves as ladies. Before we get into it. Who is a lady?

Her: The word lady is used for a girl or a woman. It was once used to describe only women of high social class or status. Now it’s used to refer to any adult woman. 

l’m not too old just a few years on earth but I have never seen a female with mascular features being called a lady. Being a lady is an act. From my perspective, your actions and attributes qualify you to be a lady and even be addressed as such.

Me: mmmmm. Now to our topic, how would you define self love?

Her: From my own perspective, self love is having a high regard for your own well being and happiness. And this includes and not limited to: spending time on yourself (quality time of course) and spending on yourself. Some of us are able to shop for others, all the nice dresses and nice perfumes. But when it comes to buying things for yourself you end up buying outdated and outmoded stuff,  I mean low grade items.  When it comes to us, everything is costly. But when you are buying for a friend you choose wisely, you ask for her colors because  you want that gift to make her happy. Meanwhile, you can’t make your own self happy and proud.

Compliment and appreciate yourself. You work for a whole year and you can’t even enter a spa. Regarding yourself on top of everything is self love. Your own well being and happiness is highly important.

Me: Wow, that’s some good stuff in there. Most of the things you suggested include some amount of  money. What about those who genuinely cannot afford that level of self love, how do they show love to themselves?

Her: Learn to accept compliments the right way. When someone says, “Hi lady you are beautiful, I love your complexion”.  Don’t say, really? Are you sure? Rather, accept it and say thank you. 

Write encouraging and affirming  notes on your mirror, such as: I am awesome, I am beautiful, I will do well, I am on top etc. 

Surround yourself with wise, intelligent and positive  people. Take counsel, do something nice for yourself for once. Lolx.  Cook, bake, write a song, dance to some music, feel good about yourself. I mean the list is endless.  

Me: With or without money, I can still show me I love me. That’s deep! Hey sis, you’ve got no excuse, be intentional about loving yourself. Ma’am, could you please tell us your top 5 self care activities?

Her: 💖 I spread myself some good makeup, I have learnt to do it myself.

💖 I take myself out to nice places

💖 I compliment myself on anything I do before anyone else does. Theirs is an addition

💖 I engage in joyful moments ( you can testify I attend weddings a lot🤣)

💖 I write encouraging words in my dairy

Me:  Wahala for who no dey attend weddings o!(Trouble for those who don’t attend weddings)  Haha. What are some of the benefits of being intentional about loving yourself? 

Her: 💖 It has humbled me 

💖It has made me understand and know that even what I think of myself is small. Because I have a positive image of myself, others are able to see more in me.

💖It has made me stay healthy too. When you have time for yourself and your body, you grow well and you still feel young.

💖The focus is on me so I don’t have time to be jealous about another lady or chase things that don’t matter.

💖Loving myself  has given me the opportunity to spread more love across.

Me: Indeed you cannot give what you don’t have. 

I know some people really take this self care and self love thing seriously till they start dating or get married then they don’t practice it anymore. How can such ladies keep loving themselves even in a relationship/marriage? I’m asking for a sister😉.

Her: I don’t even know why you must lose it. Lolx

What does marriage change on you that makes you lose focus on yourself?

Mostly it’s your  self care acts that caught the guy’s attention. So why don’t you  try and maintain that and even add up.

So if you are married for example and you get pregnant, after giving birth what stops you from going back to your former stature if there has been some change?

It’s not easy, but if you love yourself and you want that back, you can do it.

If you are in a relationship and your partner gives you compliments, that’s no guarantee to put an end to complimenting yourself.

The day he will say your head is very big or anything unpleasant, it will get to you.  Why?  Because you have stopped doing it too.

Marriage/relationship shouldn’t make you stop your self care practices.

If you love yourself,  you will keep at it.

Me: Self care never goes out of style, we need it every step of the way. Mmmmmm. I have learnt so much and I can’t believe we are ending already. Lady Vee, what are your final words to our cherished readers?

Her: It’s not the intention of any lady who desires marriage to be single for a long time. Some may marry early others may marry late, there’s no rush, marrying right is the goal. Never think you are dark or slim, that’s why you are single. Use this time to prepare yourself, love God, love yourself, treat yourself real good, learn more about yourself, your temperament and all that. Learn how to cook, haha it’s very necessary. I LOVE YOU ALL❤️.

Me:  WE LOVE YOU RIGHT BACK❤️! For those of you who don’t know, our guest today is my mother in the Lord and I’m just one of the many ladies she is raising to impact this generation. She’s a great blessing to humanity. Mummy thank you for honoring this invitation.

Her: It’s always a pleasure, baby girl. More grace.

Me: Amen. You can get in touch with our guest, she’s Vivian Annan on all social media platforms.

Dear cherished readers, you don’t want to miss the Val’s day special edition coming right up. Our next guest is going to share her love story on how she went from single to dating then to marriage. It’s gonna be lovely so stay tuned.

How about we share our thoughts on today’s conversation in the comments, and oh feel free to drop your own self care activities in the comments so we all learn. LIKE, FOLLOW, COMMENT and SHARE this post. Until next time, take your self care activities seriously.🥰